I am continuing this journey of how I, as a Life coach, can enable you to “Be Mindful”
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Prior to becoming a coach, I spent my years living in a so called “unconscious state”. The concepts Being Mindful, Present or Aware, did not resonate with me at all. I was purely focused on how much I was doing, whether I was doing the right thing, and whether I was good enough? I was in the moment physically, but not entirely emotionally!
Although I had travelled and explored new cities, purchased new items, spent time socializing, I wasn’t aware of how to embrace these experiences and to allow myself to truly appreciate my so called successes. At times, I thought so hard about my goals such as going to the gym or eating healthily, that these thoughts manifested inside of me as if it were real … but only when I became more Mindful, did I realise that these were only thoughts. In fact, my thoughts never materialized. This “unconscious way of living” is engrained in so many of us.
Think about yourself for a moment – you wake up in the morning, go to the bathroom, have a shower, brush your teeth and continue with your daily routine. This sounds pretty mindful or present… Right? Well, consider this – when doing all of these things, is your mind usually preoccupied with thoughts and questions such as:
- What am I going to wear today?
- I have to leave home by 6:30am or else I will be late for work!
- I still need to get the kids ready for school!
- What will I prepare for lunch?
- The beds still have to be made!
Sound familiar? You are not alone. Generally, these thoughts and questions not only characterise our thought processes in the morning, but continue to cloud our minds throughout the day. As a result, we tend to be so busy that we don’t realise how our endless thoughts rob us of the ability to live mindfully.
An extract by Eckhart Tolle provides an interesting perspective on what it means to be Present …
“You keep talking about the state of presence as the key. I understand it intellectually, but I don’t know if I have ever truly experienced it. I wonder – is it what I think it is, or is it something entirely different? … It’s not what you think it is! You can’t think about presence, and the mind can’t understand it. Understanding presence is Being present.”
So, Being Mindful, Being Aware, and Being Present is narrowed down to simply … “Being”.
I have put together a list of tips on how to be Mindful:
- The first thing you need to acknowledge and become aware of, is your Breath. Yes, your breathing! So many of us forget that we are alive and that we are breathing. So, focus on your breath and take a few deep breaths, really connect with yourself and enjoy this moment of being alive.
- Eating provides another opportunity to live in the moment. But often we just eat to survive. Do we really get to enjoy our meals? Are we even registering or tasting the food that we eat? Usually not, because our minds are preoccupied. The next time you have a meal, try this. Focus on your breath, then create a space where there are no distractions. (Try eating in the dark once in a while and you will notice the difference). Plan your meal and be Mindful of what you are going to eat. Allow yourself to taste, smell and genuinely savour your meal.
- Given the fast-paced world that we live in, we can’t get by without Multi-tasking. Now multitasking is not a bad thing, but when we multitask, we only dedicate a fraction of our time and energy to the activities that we are working on. Where possible, do one thing at a time, and do it Mindfully. This will enable you to give your all and ensure that you complete the task at hand knowing that it has been done correctly.
- Communication – “Most people do not listen with the intent to understand; they listen with the intent to reply.” We have all had such moments; where someone is speaking to us, we have so many other things that we are thinking about at the same time. We hear what they are saying, but are we listening? When having a conversation, try to purposefully bring yourself into the moment, acknowledge and see the person that you are conversing with. Absorb and listen to what they are saying. Be present!
These are the steps that I have personally taken during the past 6 years that have enabled me to become more alive; to enjoy my moments. I know that this is not easy to do because we have been conditioned to live in a particular way. But now, today, you can start practicing this new way of living.
One step at a time, I encourage you to start practicing these steps at least once a week for now. I know that you can do this! Experiment and focus on the Present moment!
When we do this, “… we yield to our positive qualities, perform at our peak, and open ourselves to a deep resonance with others” – Tara Bennet-Goleman
Do you want to take a step further and learn how to be more mindful and just “Be”? Please contact me here.
Look out for my “Being Quest” Workshop in November. Contact me for pre bookings and enquiries.
“If you want to conquer the anxiety of life, live in the moment, live in the breath.” ― Amit Ray